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Overcoming Love Bombing, Grooming, and Hoovering Through Faith in Him


Love bombing, grooming, and hoovering are manipulative tactics used by toxic individuals to gain control and exploit others, particularly in abusive relationships. As women seeking to protect ourselves and our children, it is vital to recognize these patterns and prioritize our safety. By putting God first, anchoring ourselves in Scripture, and embracing our identity as overcomers in Him, we can break free from these destructive cycles and create a secure and thriving environment. This post explores strategies for self-protection, the power of Scripture, and the path to becoming overcomers in Him.

Recognizing Manipulative Tactics:

Love bombing involves excessive attention, flattery, and gifts in the initial stages of a relationship to create an intense emotional bond. Grooming refers to the gradual process of desensitizing victims to abusive behavior, eroding their boundaries and self-esteem. Hoovering is the tactic employed to lure individuals back into toxic relationships after they have left. Understanding these tactics is crucial in protecting ourselves and our children.

Scripture: Proverbs 2:11 - "Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you."

Trusting Your Instincts:

Developing a strong sense of intuition and listening to our instincts can help us identify and respond to manipulative behavior. God has blessed us with discernment, and by leaning on Him, we can cultivate wisdom and make sound decisions to protect ourselves and our children.

Scripture: James 1:5 - "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him."

Establishing Boundaries:

Setting clear boundaries is essential in safeguarding our emotional, mental, and physical well-being. By establishing and enforcing boundaries, we protect ourselves and send a clear message that manipulative tactics will not be tolerated.

Scripture: Proverbs 4:23 - "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

Seeking Support:

Reaching out for support is vital in breaking free from abusive relationships. Surrounding ourselves with a network of trusted friends, family, and faith-based communities can provide encouragement, practical assistance, and guidance on the path to healing.

Scripture: Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 - "Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up."

Anchoring in Scripture:

The Word of God is a powerful source of strength, comfort, and guidance. By immersing ourselves in Scripture, we find solace, wisdom, and encouragement. God's truth reminds us of our worth, His love for us, and His desire for our well-being.

Scripture: Psalm 46:1 - "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble."


Protecting ourselves and our children from the destructive tactics of love bombing, grooming, and hoovering requires vigilance, inner strength, and reliance on God. By recognizing manipulative tactics, trusting our instincts, establishing boundaries, seeking support, and anchoring ourselves in Scripture, we can break free from toxic cycles and become overcomers in Him. Remember, God's love is our ultimate protection, and through Him, we can find the strength and courage to create a safe and flourishing environment for ourselves and our children.

Scripture: Philippians 4:13 - "I can do all things through him who strengthens me."

Love and Blessings!



An online self paced program designed to educate, encourage, equip, empower, comfort, support, validate, and give you hope as you Overcome In Him. Created by a Bible believing RN that is also a Board Certified Holistic Nurse Coach, Certified Trauma Informed, Narcissistic Abuse Specialist, Christian Mental Health Coaching, a Certified Brainspotting Practitioner, and so much more!


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