Oh, how I love being a mom, Mimi, and wife. Nothing compares. These are not the roles that compete with my purpose—they ARE my purpose. Everything else in my life has been intentionally built around them. That's why I created a career that allows me to serve women while protecting what matters most: my family. I am deeply grateful for God's blessings and for allowing me to walk in a calling that honors both my ministry and my home. Never underestimate the value of your God-gi

A man is not a god simply because he is a husband. Too many women have been taught that "submission" means tolerating abuse, deception, manipulation, addiction, infidelity, intimidation, or ungodly leadership. That is not what Scripture teaches. God never calls a wife to submit to sin. He calls us to submit first to Him. A man who refuses to submit his own life to Christ cannot expect unquestioning obedience while leading his family away from God. Pride, control, lies, rage,

When churches tell women to endure abuse in the name of "submission," they are not reflecting the heart of Christ—they are cowardly enabling sin. Jesus never excused oppression. He confronted it. He defended the vulnerable. He called sinners to repentance, not victims to remain in harm's way. At Overcomers in Him, we are passionate about helping women break free from the lies that keep them trapped, heal from the wounds of abuse, and discover their true identity in Christ. Bi

In-house separation, often overlooked but increasingly recognized, is a unique approach to relationship evaluation and healing.Healing and Recalibrating:It involves physical separation within the same household, providing individuals with the space and time necessary for reflection, recalibration, healing from past wounds, and growth. This period of separation can serve as a transformative journey, allowing individuals to discern whether their relationship aligns with God's w

While I most often speak about the male narcissist, it is important to understand that narcissism is not exclusive to men. The majority of my clients are women healing from trauma and narcissistic abuse, which is why much of my content reflects their experiences. However, I have also worked with men who have been deeply wounded by women operating in the same narcissistic spirit. Abuse, manipulation, control, deceit, envy, and destruction are not gender-specific issues. Person

Narcissistic abuse is one of the most devastating forms of abuse because it doesn’t just wound the body or emotions—it targets your soul and your God-given identity. It distorts truth, erodes confidence, and slowly separates you from who God created you to be. This is why so many survivors say, “I feel like I’m going crazy.” Because you’ve been living in an environment of chronic confusion, contradiction, and manipulation—a place where truth is twisted, reality is denied, and

Sometimes we overlook the importance of understanding the concept of running out of essential resources and replenishing them. We readily acknowledge the need to refuel our vehicles or restock groceries, yet fail to apply the same principle to a woman's energy and well-being. Women are not disposable; they too require nurturing and care to maintain their physical and emotional health. Today, let's explore five crucial elements that women need to thrive and bloom. 1. Self-Care

It distorts truth, erodes confidence, and slowly separates you from who God created you to be. This is why so many survivors say, “I feel like I’m going crazy.” Because you’ve been living in an environment of chronic confusion, contradiction, and manipulation—a place where truth is twisted, reality is denied, and your discernment is constantly challenged. This is chaos, and Scripture reminds us that God is not the author of confusion. There is a spiritual component to this. T

This past week was one of those beautiful, joy-filled reminders of what truly matters most. We began Mother’s Day together with my husband, my four children, my beautiful daughter-in-love, my precious grandson Phoenix, and my sweet granddaughters Emmy and Avery. From there, we spent three unforgettable days at Disney parks and another day enjoying a little beach time and lunch together — where we unexpectedly got caught in a storm while at the restaurant. And honestly? It was

One of the most disorienting dynamics in narcissistic emotional abuse is this: They don’t just hurt you once… they stack offenses. Multiple jabs. Multiple accusations. Multiple moments of disrespect — all at once. Why? Because it floods your nervous system. Your body goes into overwhelm. Your mind can’t process fast enough. Your emotions get tangled. You feel confused, scattered, and unable to respond clearly. And then… if you do try to bring up what happened? They respond

💔This past week has been one of those sacred, stretching seasons for our family.💔 My mother-in-love, who is in the advanced stages of dementia, was taken to the ER and admitted to the hospital last Sunday. We were blessed to be able to bring her back home on Monday evening. We are continuing to make adjustments as her needs increase and her condition declines. Dementia is such a cruel disease—it slowly takes memories, cognition, and independence, abilities, & even self este

There is something deeply broken in a system where the wounded are questioned more than the ones who caused the wounds. If you’ve ever found yourself over-explaining… Trying to prove your pain… Replaying conversations to justify your reality… You’re not crazy—you’ve been conditioned. Abuse—especially emotional, verbal, and psychological—trains you to believe you are the problem. It keeps you in cycles of confusion, self-doubt, and striving for approval that will never come. B

Many trauma survivors don’t just “prefer texting”… they’ve learned it as a form of safety. If you’ve walked through a narcissistic or high-conflict relationship, you understand this on a deep, embodied level. When you’ve endured: • circular conversations that never resolve • rage and emotional volatility • gaslighting that makes you question your reality • constant interruptions, accusations, and control Your nervous system adapts. From a trauma-informed, evidence-based persp

You can quote scripture. You can go to church. You can say all the “right” things… …but if there is: ❌ Control ❌ Rage ❌ Gaslighting ❌ Lack of accountability ❌ Emotional or verbal abuse ❌ Cheating (including pornography) ❌ Addiction ❌ Neglect of her needs ❌ Over burdening with responsibility ❌ Empty promises ❌ Financial irresponsibility ❌ Parental neglect or abuse That is not the heart of Jesus. The standard isn’t perfection… The standard is fruit. 📖 “By their fruit you

Each morning, I get up while it's still dark. I get my coffee, do my workout, & have my 'God Time' where I pray, study Scripture, reflect, listen, journal, & end with listening to worship music while I start getting ready for the day. I've done it now for over 30 years. I've memorized countless verses, felt the loving conviction of the Holy Spirit, grown, healed, stumbled, cried, repented, rejoiced, pleaded for others, found peace during troubled times, felt held

Few things cut as deeply as the emotional whiplash of a man who once made you feel cherished—like his soulmate—only to turn cold, distant, or even cruel. This is not just heartbreak; it’s mind games and manipulation at its worst. It leaves you questioning everything: Was it real? Did I imagine the love? Was I just being used? This kind of emotional manipulation is often intentional. Whether rooted in narcissistic tendencies or deep-seated immaturity, the goal is control. Firs

Proverbs 6:16-19 outlines seven things the Lord hates—actions and attitudes that are detestable to Him. Among these, we find "a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community." These warnings are not just ancient words of caution; they are timeless truths that call us to examine the way we live, especially in our interactions with others, and particularly within the church. "Causing Division is Like Murder" The Word of God often likens th

Oftentimes, while good intentioned, we have unknowingly given our power over to a narcissistic spirit out of the desire to be submissive, meek, or nice. We may have found ourselves in a destructive relationship or situationship and have mistakenly thought that the answer was to be nice by submitting to one that feeds off of power, control, and reactions based on manipulation. However, the Word calls us to be Holy, not nice! Bullies don’t change when they are catered to. G

I wanted to be a wife. A mama. A homemaker. A homeschool mom. And for around 20 years, that’s exactly what I was — a stay-at-home, homeschooling mama whose greatest joy was nursing babies, managing my home, cooking meals, growing a garden, canning, making candles & homemade bread, doing daily Bible study with my children, nurturing their hobbies & skills, and creating a place of safety and warmth. My heart has always been in my home. But our lives blew up because of the choic

There’s something sacred about the early morning hours—before the noise, before the demands, before the world wakes up and starts pulling.It ’s peaceful. It’s still. It’s holy ground for me. Mornings are when I sit with my coffee ☕, my Bible 📖, and my gratitude. Another day to serve Him.Another day to love my family.Another day to pour into my community. Jesus Himself modeled this rhythm: “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and w