Oh, you know them… They come across as the victim. They weasel their way into your life, using their past pain as an excuse to treat others with disrespect, disdain, and accusations. They lie. They triangulate. They manipulate. They act perpetually needy. They use people because they believe they're entitled to what others have. They refuse to take responsibility. They manipulate to get what they want—and when they don't get it, they explode. They rarely serve others from a g

You know what you call someone who deceives another person to win her heart? A con man. You know what you call a man who expects a woman to carry the financial, emotional, household, and family responsibilities while still demanding that she submit to him? Delusional. You know what you call a man who intentionally pursues a woman who has survived trauma, rebuilt her life, and is raising her children—only to manipulate her, use her, exploit her, and take advantage of her trust

There is something we need to talk about. Women who have been deceived, gaslit, betrayed, and abused are often blamed for the very destruction they did not create. “She’s not perfect either.” “How could she not have known?” “Why did she stay?” “Why didn’t she leave sooner?” “She needs to forgive.” “She needs to pray for him." “She needs to fast for her marriage.” “She needs to submit.” “She needs to repent of her bitterness.” But what happens when the woman who trusted a man

There is something beautiful about being a woman. We were created with a unique capacity to nurture, cultivate, teach, comfort, create, organize, nourish, and bring life and warmth into the places God has entrusted to us. There is joy in building a home. There is joy in preparing a meal and watching the people you love gather around the table. There is joy in shopping for provisions and making sure the needs of your household are cared for. There is joy in creating an atmosph

Sometimes the hardest part of narcissistic abuse isn't the accusation itself—it's realizing you've spent years defending yourself against things you never did. You explain. You prove. You apologize for things that weren't yours. You walk on eggshells trying to avoid the next accusation. But here's the truth: You were never meant to spend your life on trial in your own home. God knows the truth. He sees what others don't. And healing begins when you stop trying to convince som

You know what lying is? Abuse. You know what cheating is? Abuse. You know what repeatedly neglecting your responsibilities while expecting someone else to carry the load is? Abuse. You know what sabotaging someone's sleep, rest, health, work, or ability to function is? Abuse. You know what gaslighting is? Abuse. You know what spiritual control is? Abuse. You know what stealing from someone is? Abuse. And let's go a little deeper... You know what chronic deception is? Abuse. Y

Let's be honest. Bullying doesn't always look like a child being picked on at school. Sometimes it looks like the spouse who constantly mocks you, humiliates you, criticizes you, intimidates you, or deliberately pushes your buttons—and then says, "I was just kidding." Sometimes it looks like the person who hurts you and then tells you that you're "too sensitive." Sometimes it looks like manipulation disguised as love. Gaslighting disguised as concern. Blameshifting disguised

Oh, how I love being a mom, Mimi, and wife. Nothing compares. These are not the roles that compete with my purpose—they ARE my purpose. Everything else in my life has been intentionally built around them. That's why I created a career that allows me to serve women while protecting what matters most: my family. I am deeply grateful for God's blessings and for allowing me to walk in a calling that honors both my ministry and my home. Never underestimate the value of your God-gi

A man is not a god simply because he is a husband. Too many women have been taught that "submission" means tolerating abuse, deception, manipulation, addiction, infidelity, intimidation, or ungodly leadership. That is not what Scripture teaches. God never calls a wife to submit to sin. He calls us to submit first to Him. A man who refuses to submit his own life to Christ cannot expect unquestioning obedience while leading his family away from God. Pride, control, lies, rage,

When churches tell women to endure abuse in the name of "submission," they are not reflecting the heart of Christ—they are cowardly enabling sin. Jesus never excused oppression. He confronted it. He defended the vulnerable. He called sinners to repentance, not victims to remain in harm's way. At Overcomers in Him, we are passionate about helping women break free from the lies that keep them trapped, heal from the wounds of abuse, and discover their true identity in Christ. Bi

In-house separation, often overlooked but increasingly recognized, is a unique approach to relationship evaluation and healing.Healing and Recalibrating:It involves physical separation within the same household, providing individuals with the space and time necessary for reflection, recalibration, healing from past wounds, and growth. This period of separation can serve as a transformative journey, allowing individuals to discern whether their relationship aligns with God's w

While I most often speak about the male narcissist, it is important to understand that narcissism is not exclusive to men. The majority of my clients are women healing from trauma and narcissistic abuse, which is why much of my content reflects their experiences. However, I have also worked with men who have been deeply wounded by women operating in the same narcissistic spirit. Abuse, manipulation, control, deceit, envy, and destruction are not gender-specific issues. Person

Narcissistic abuse is one of the most devastating forms of abuse because it doesn’t just wound the body or emotions—it targets your soul and your God-given identity. It distorts truth, erodes confidence, and slowly separates you from who God created you to be. This is why so many survivors say, “I feel like I’m going crazy.” Because you’ve been living in an environment of chronic confusion, contradiction, and manipulation—a place where truth is twisted, reality is denied, and

Sometimes we overlook the importance of understanding the concept of running out of essential resources and replenishing them. We readily acknowledge the need to refuel our vehicles or restock groceries, yet fail to apply the same principle to a woman's energy and well-being. Women are not disposable; they too require nurturing and care to maintain their physical and emotional health. Today, let's explore five crucial elements that women need to thrive and bloom. 1. Self-Care

It distorts truth, erodes confidence, and slowly separates you from who God created you to be. This is why so many survivors say, “I feel like I’m going crazy.” Because you’ve been living in an environment of chronic confusion, contradiction, and manipulation—a place where truth is twisted, reality is denied, and your discernment is constantly challenged. This is chaos, and Scripture reminds us that God is not the author of confusion. There is a spiritual component to this. T

This past week was one of those beautiful, joy-filled reminders of what truly matters most. We began Mother’s Day together with my husband, my four children, my beautiful daughter-in-love, my precious grandson Phoenix, and my sweet granddaughters Emmy and Avery. From there, we spent three unforgettable days at Disney parks and another day enjoying a little beach time and lunch together — where we unexpectedly got caught in a storm while at the restaurant. And honestly? It was

One of the most disorienting dynamics in narcissistic emotional abuse is this: They don’t just hurt you once… they stack offenses. Multiple jabs. Multiple accusations. Multiple moments of disrespect — all at once. Why? Because it floods your nervous system. Your body goes into overwhelm. Your mind can’t process fast enough. Your emotions get tangled. You feel confused, scattered, and unable to respond clearly. And then… if you do try to bring up what happened? They respond

💔This past week has been one of those sacred, stretching seasons for our family.💔 My mother-in-love, who is in the advanced stages of dementia, was taken to the ER and admitted to the hospital last Sunday. We were blessed to be able to bring her back home on Monday evening. We are continuing to make adjustments as her needs increase and her condition declines. Dementia is such a cruel disease—it slowly takes memories, cognition, and independence, abilities, & even self este

There is something deeply broken in a system where the wounded are questioned more than the ones who caused the wounds. If you’ve ever found yourself over-explaining… Trying to prove your pain… Replaying conversations to justify your reality… You’re not crazy—you’ve been conditioned. Abuse—especially emotional, verbal, and psychological—trains you to believe you are the problem. It keeps you in cycles of confusion, self-doubt, and striving for approval that will never come. B

Many trauma survivors don’t just “prefer texting”… they’ve learned it as a form of safety. If you’ve walked through a narcissistic or high-conflict relationship, you understand this on a deep, embodied level. When you’ve endured: • circular conversations that never resolve • rage and emotional volatility • gaslighting that makes you question your reality • constant interruptions, accusations, and control Your nervous system adapts. From a trauma-informed, evidence-based persp