There is something deeply broken in a system where the wounded are questioned more than the ones who caused the wounds. If you’ve ever found yourself over-explaining… Trying to prove your pain… Replaying conversations to justify your reality… You’re not crazy—you’ve been conditioned. Abuse—especially emotional, verbal, and psychological—trains you to believe you are the problem. It keeps you in cycles of confusion, self-doubt, and striving for approval that will never come. B

Many trauma survivors don’t just “prefer texting”… they’ve learned it as a form of safety. If you’ve walked through a narcissistic or high-conflict relationship, you understand this on a deep, embodied level. When you’ve endured: • circular conversations that never resolve • rage and emotional volatility • gaslighting that makes you question your reality • constant interruptions, accusations, and control Your nervous system adapts. From a trauma-informed, evidence-based persp

You can quote scripture. You can go to church. You can say all the “right” things… …but if there is:  ❌ Control ❌ Rage ❌ Gaslighting ❌ Lack of accountability ❌ Emotional or verbal abuse ❌ Cheating (including pornography)  ❌ Addiction  ❌ Neglect of her needs ❌ Over burdening with responsibility  ❌ Empty promises ❌ Financial irresponsibility ❌ Parental neglect or abuse  That is not the heart of Jesus. The standard isn’t perfection… The standard is fruit. 📖 “By their fruit you

Each morning, I get up while it's still dark. I get my coffee, do my workout, & have my 'God Time' where I pray, study Scripture, reflect, listen, journal, & end with listening to worship music while I start getting ready for the day. I've done it now for over 30 years. I've memorized countless verses, felt the loving conviction of the Holy Spirit, grown, healed, stumbled, cried, repented, rejoiced, pleaded for others, found peace during troubled times, felt held