Dear women who are trapped in narcissistic or emotionally abusive relationships,
I want you to know that you are not alone. You deserve love, respect, and happiness. It's time to break free from the chains that bind you and embark on a journey of healing, strength, and restoration. Trust that with God by your side, you have the power to overcome any obstacles you face. Here are some suggestions, supported by scripture, to guide you on your path to freedom and healing:
1. Recognize your worth in God's eyes: "For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made." (Psalm 139:13-14) Remind yourself every day that you are a precious creation of God, deserving of happiness and respect.
2. Seek support from those who understand: "Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their toil...A threefold cord is not quickly broken." (Ecclesiastes 4:9, 12) Reach out to friends, family, or support groups like Overcomers in Him who can provide a listening ear, empathy, and practical guidance on your journey towards freedom.
3. Establish healthy boundaries: "Do not be misled: 'Bad company corrupts good character.'" (1 Corinthians 15:33) Understand that setting boundaries is not only acceptable but crucial for protecting your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Learn to say 'no' to the abuser's manipulations and hold firm to your boundaries.
4. Embrace self-care: "Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body." (1 Corinthians 6:19-20) Prioritize self-care activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Engage in hobbies, indulge in relaxation, and focus on your own growth and well-being.
5. Practice forgiveness and release: "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:32) Letting go of anger, resentment, and bitterness is a powerful step towards healing. Forgiving your abuser does not mean condoning their actions; it means freeing yourself from the burden of holding onto pain.
6. Surround yourself with positive influences: "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things." (Philippians 4:8) Fill your life with positive influences, uplifting music, inspiring books, and meaningful connections with people who radiate love, kindness, and empathy.
7. Seek professional help if needed: "Without counsel, plans fail, but with many advisers, they succeed." (Proverbs 15:22) Do not hesitate to reach out to therapists, trauma informed coaches, or support organizations like Overcomers in Him specializing, experienced, & trained in abuse recovery. We can provide guidance, tools, and strategies to help you navigate through the healing process.
Remember, dear sisters, that breaking free from an abusive relationship takes courage, strength, and time. Trust that God will walk beside you every step of the way, guiding you towards a life filled with joy, peace, and unconditional love. You are precious, you are capable, and you are worthy of a life free from abuse.
With love, blessings, and support,
Connie Dunn, BSN, RN, NC-BC, BC-MHC
Trauma Informed Positive Psychology Nurse Coach & Narcissistic Abuse Specialist
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