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Cultivating a Spirit of Gratitude: The Path to Overcoming Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse and traumatic experiences can leave deep wounds that may seem impossible to heal. However, as overcomers in Him, we can find solace and strength through a spirit of gratitude. In this post, we will explore how cultivating gratitude, drawing on scripture and other techniques, can lead to post-traumatic growth and a renewed sense of purpose.

1. Acknowledge the Reality:

Before we dive into gratitude, it's crucial to recognize and validate the pain and trauma you have endured. Acknowledging your experiences doesn't diminish your journey, but rather sets the foundation for healing and resilience.

2. Seek Support and Professional Help:

Trauma recovery is multifaceted and complex. Seek professional help, whether through therapy or support groups such as with Overcomers in Him, to help navigate the healing process. These resources can provide tools and techniques to complement your gratitude practice.

3. Gratitude as a Transformative Power:

Gratitude has the power to transform our perspective and focus, even amidst the darkest times. By intentionally cultivating gratitude, we can train our minds to notice the positive, fostering a shift from victimhood to empowerment.

4. Gratitude in Scripture:

The Bible offers numerous passages that encourage gratitude in the face of adversity. For example:

- Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us to present our requests to God with thanksgiving, finding peace that surpasses understanding.

- 1 Thessalonians 5:18 encourages giving thanks in all circumstances, for it is God's will for us in Christ Jesus.

5. Gratitude Journaling:

One practical way to incorporate gratitude into your healing journey is by starting a gratitude journal. Each day, list three things you are grateful for, no matter how simple or mundane. This exercise trains your mind to focus on blessings rather than the pain.

6. Expressing Gratitude:

Beyond writing in a journal, consider expressing gratitude in various ways:

- Write thank-you letters to those who have been supportive during your recovery.

- Share your story of overcoming with others, inspiring hope and gratitude in their lives.

- Offer prayers of gratitude for the strength and resilience you've gained.

7. Mindfulness and Self-Care:

Practicing mindfulness and self-care are vital components of cultivating a spirit of gratitude. Engage in activities that bring you joy, peace, and fulfillment. Connect with creation by getting outside, practice Biblical meditation, engage in creative outlets, or simply take time to rest and rejuvenate.

8. Post-Traumatic Growth:

Gratitude becomes a catalyst for post-traumatic growth—a process where survivors find new meaning, strength, and purpose in life after trauma. By embracing gratitude, you can transform your trauma into an opportunity for personal growth and empowerment.


While narcissistic abuse and trauma can leave scars, cultivating a spirit of gratitude empowers and uplifts us on our healing journey. Gratitude is a choice and it stems from appreciating the blessings we have. When we choose gratitude over complaining, we give our situation to God instead of letting the enemy get a foothold in our lives. By embracing gratitude and drawing on the wisdom of scripture, we can take what the enemy intended for evil to use for good (Gen. 50:20), experience post-traumatic growth, find a renewed sense of purpose and joy in our lives. Remember, You are an overcomer in Him, and through gratitude, you can move forward with hope and resilience.

Love and blessings!

Connie, BSN, RN, NC-BC, BC-MHC

Board Certified Trauma, Mental Health, and Narcissistic Abuse Nurse Coach

Need help? Please email me at or follow the links in my website to set up a free Discovery Call to discuss how you can be an Overcomer in Him!


Oct 14, 2023

This is so very helpful! Thank you!

Oct 14, 2023
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You're most welcome! 🙌💜

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