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How Narcissists can Ruin Holidays and Ways to Overcome their Tactics

The holiday season is meant to be a joyous and festive time, where we gather with loved ones and experience peace and joy. However, when dealing with narcissistic individuals, the holidays can easily turn into a chaotic and stressful period. Narcissists' self-centered behavior and manipulation tactics can quickly dampen the spirit of the season. In this post, we will explore how narcissists ruin holidays and provide five practical strategies for Overcomers in Him to counter their tactics, create healthy boundaries, and maintain their peace and joy.

1. Recognize the Narcissistic Traits:

To effectively deal with narcissists during the holidays, it's essential first to understand their key traits. Narcissists often crave attention, lack empathy, manipulate others, and engage in controlling behaviors. By being aware of these characteristics, you can better anticipate and prepare for their tactics.

2. Set Clear Boundaries:

Establishing healthy boundaries is crucial when dealing with narcissists. Clearly communicate your limits and expectations, and stick to them. Don't compromise your mental and emotional well-being for the sake of keeping the peace. Remember, it's okay to say no to unreasonable demands or disrespectful behavior.

3. Practice Self-Care:

Taking care of yourself during the holidays is essential, especially when dealing with narcissists. Prioritize self-care activities that bring you peace, joy, and rejuvenation. Engage in activities like meditation, journaling, exercising, or spending time in nature. Nurture your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being to maintain your inner peace.

4. Seek Support and Build a Supportive Network:

Navigating the challenges of dealing with narcissists during the holidays can be overwhelming. Reach out to trusted friends, family, or support groups who understand your situation. Surrounding yourself with a strong support network can provide validation, guidance, and encouragement, making it easier to maintain your peace and joy. Additionally, finding a supportive community at your place of worship can help reinforce your spiritual and emotional resilience.

5. Meditate on Scripture and Focus on Faith:

Drawing strength from your faith can be a powerful tool in combating narcissistic tactics during the holidays. Spend time meditating on scriptures that promote love, forgiveness, and peace. Reflect on passages that remind you of God's love, grace, and guidance. Keep your focus on your relationship with Him, remembering that you are not alone in dealing with these challenges.


Holidays should be a time of celebration, unity, and inner peace. By understanding narcissistic traits, setting boundaries, practicing self-care, seeking support, and nurturing your faith, you can counter their tactics, create healthy boundaries, and maintain your peace and joy. Remember, you are an Overcomer in Him, capable of rising above the toxic behavior of narcissists and experiencing the true essence of the holiday season.

Love & blessings!  

Connie, BSN, RN, NC-BC, BC-MHC

Board Certified Trauma Informed Positive Psychology Nurse Coach, Mental Health Coach, Narcissistic Abuse Specialist, & Brainspotting Practitioner


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