🌸 THE JOY OF BEING A WOMAN: OUR HOMES, OUR CHILDREN & OUR CALLING 🌸

There is something beautiful about being a woman.

We were created with a unique capacity to nurture, cultivate, teach, comfort, create, organize, nourish, and bring life and warmth into the places God has entrusted to us.

There is joy in building a home.

There is joy in preparing a meal and watching the people you love gather around the table.

There is joy in shopping for provisions and making sure the needs of your household are cared for.

There is joy in creating an atmosphere where children feel safe, loved, known, and valued.

There is joy in teaching the Word of God, praying over your children, correcting them with wisdom, and helping shape the character of the next generation.

There is joy in the ordinary things that often go unnoticed.

The laundry.

The meals.

The bedtime stories.

The hugs.

The conversations.

The prayers.

The boundaries.

The discipline.

The laughter.

The tears.

The countless little sacrifices that become the foundation upon which a family is built.

Proverbs 31 gives us a beautiful picture of a woman who is diligent, wise, capable, resourceful, generous, and intentional. She cares for her household. She makes provisions. She works with her hands. She speaks wisdom. She watches over the affairs of her home.

But here's something we must remember:

You cannot continually pour out what you refuse to allow God to pour into you.

Your rest matters.

Your sleep matters.

Your physical health matters.

Your exercise matters.

Your nutrition matters.

Your time with the Lord matters.

Your emotional healing matters.

Your nervous system matters.

Your relationship with God matters.

Caring for yourself is not selfish when it enables you to faithfully care for what God has entrusted to you.

A depleted woman will eventually struggle to nurture from a place of abundance.

That doesn't mean we have to be perfect.

It means we need wisdom.

It means we need to recognize our limitations.

It means we need to put safeguards in place.

Sometimes that means asking for help.

Sometimes it means saying no.

Sometimes it means creating routines.

Sometimes it means getting more sleep.

Sometimes it means stepping away from unhealthy relationships.

Sometimes it means setting boundaries with people who continually drain the peace from your home.

Sometimes it means delegating what you cannot carry.

Sometimes it means seeking counseling, coaching, medical care, or support.

Sometimes it means admitting, "I can't do this alone."

And sister, hear this:

You were never meant to.

Our children and our homes are among the first places where our calling is lived out. We have been entrusted with raising future generations—not because we are perfect, but because God can work through surrendered women who are willing to grow.

Our children are watching how we handle conflict.

How we apologize.

How we forgive.

How we speak.

How we respond when we're tired.  And no, being tired does not give us an excuse to treat others unkindly.  

How we treat our bodies.

How we treat ourselves.

How we respond to disappointment.

How we walk with God.

They are learning from what we model—not just from what we teach.

So yes, let us be women who are diligent to cultivate the fruit of the Spirit in our homes.

Love.

Joy.

Peace.

Patience.

Kindness.

Goodness.

Faithfulness.

Gentleness.

Self-control.

Not perfection.

Fruit.

And fruit takes time to grow.

This is where accountability becomes an act of love.

We can lovingly ask ourselves:

🌿 What atmosphere am I cultivating in my home?

🌿 Am I creating a place of peace or constant chaos?

🌿 Am I nurturing my children emotionally, spiritually, and physically?

🌿 Am I taking care of the body God gave me?🌿 Am I spending time with the Lord so I have wisdom to give?

🌿 Am I modeling the character I am asking my children to develop?

🌿 Do I need better boundaries or safeguards to protect the peace of my home?🌿 Where do I need help?

🌿 Where have I become so depleted that I am no longer functioning from a place of health?

This is not condemnation.

This is an invitation.

An invitation to become intentional.

An invitation to receive God's wisdom.

An invitation to make changes where changes are needed.

An invitation to remember that your home is not built in one day, and neither is your family.

And for the woman who is doing this alone—for the single mother, the widow, the woman with an absent or unsafe spouse, the woman caring for a child with special needs, the woman carrying responsibilities no one else sees—please hear my heart:

God sees you.

He knows your circumstances.

He knows your limitations.

He knows what you are carrying.

He knows the gaps you cannot fill.

And He is not asking you to do the impossible.

Where there are gaps, God can meet you there.

Where you are weak, He can be your strength.

Where you lack wisdom, ask Him.

Where you need help, seek it.

Where you need rest, receive it.

Where you have fallen short, repent and begin again.

Where you are overwhelmed, surrender what you cannot control.

We are not called to carry the entire world on our shoulders.

We are called to faithfully steward what God has placed in our hands.

So let's embrace the joy of being women.

Let's build homes filled with love.

Let's nourish our families with good food and God's Word.

Let's create spaces where children can flourish.

Let's pursue wisdom.

Let's protect our peace.

Let's care for our bodies.

Let's rest.

Let's exercise.

Let's laugh.

Let's pray.

Let's grow.

Let's ask for help when we need it.

Let's put healthy safeguards in place.

Let's be women who don't just tell the next generation how to live—but show them.

Because one of the greatest gifts we can give our children is not a perfect mother.

It is a mother who is present, growing, humble, healthy, accountable, and anchored in Christ.

And when we fall short?

We don't have to pretend.

We can model repentance.

We can apologize.

We can repair.

We can begin again.

Because our children don't need us to be perfect.

They need us to be real.

They need us to be wise.

They need us to be safe.

They need us to be willing to grow.

And most of all, they need to see what it looks like for a woman to walk with her God.

"She looks well to the ways of her household..." — Proverbs 31:27

Sister, your work matters.

Your nurturing matters.

Your health matters.

Your rest matters.

Your faith matters.

Your home matters.

And the generations you are influencing matter.

Let's build wisely. Let's love deeply. Let's live intentionally. Let's raise the next generation in truth. And let's remember that we can only do what God has called us to do by His grace and in His strength.

🌸 You are not called to do it perfectly. You are called to steward it faithfully.

— Overcomers in Him 🤍

If this applies to you and you need professional support to come alongside you in your healing journey, who has also been there, take that first step by reaching out to me to set up a time to discuss what that would look like and begin your BREAKTHROUGH to taking your life back and become the woman God created you to be. 

Connie Wunderly, BSN, RN, NC-BC, BC-MHC

Board Certified Trauma Informed Nurse Coach

Christian Mental Health Coach (American Academy of Christian Counselors) 

Certified Narcissistic Abuse Specialist

Certified Somatic Experiencing, Positive Psychology, & Brainspotting Practitioner

Author

Someone Who Has been There and Overcome

Need help?  

connie@overcomersinhim.com 

1:1 Coaching/Mentorship 

Self-Paced Online Narcissistic Abuse & Trauma Breakthrough Program

Monthly Membership for those who want the online Breakthrough program and the once a month Group Coaching Q & A, but aren’t at a place for 1:1 coaching at this time. 

Follow me on social media for free education & encouragement. 

https://l.bttr.to/WNgvg