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A Conversation With My Mentor About Visibility That's Worth Sharing

In the quiet moments of reflection, I find myself marveling at the profound shifts that have occurred in my life since breaking free from the chains of narcissistic abuse. The metamorphosis is most evident in the way I perceive visibility and my willingness to step into the light. Recently, I had a heart-to-heart conversation with my mentor about this transformative journey, and I feel compelled to share the story of healing and hope that unfolded.

Breaking Free from the Shadows

There was a time when I felt invisible, overshadowed by the trauma of narcissistic abuse. It cast a dark cloud over my sense of self, leaving me feeling hopeless and helpless. The weight of the past made me believe that I was deteriorating, and the prospect of offering my children a better life seemed like an unattainable dream.

A Shift in Perspective

However, life has a way of surprising us, especially when we choose to cling to faith and step out in obedience, even in the face of fear. As I shared with my mentor, the journey toward healing started when I embraced the fact that I am worthy of being seen, known, and loved. It required courage to confront the shadows of the past and to believe that a brighter future was possible.

A Healthy Relationship as a Catalyst

Experiencing a healthy relationship played a pivotal role in reshaping my views on visibility. The contrast between the toxic environment I escaped and the nurturing connection I now enjoy highlighted the importance of surrounding ourselves with positive influences. This newfound support became a catalyst for change, encouraging me to step out of the shadows and into a space where authenticity and vulnerability could flourish.

Offering Hope to Other Overcomers

As Overcomers in Him, there is a unique opportunity to extend hope to those who feel invisible or stuck. I share my story not as a tale of despair, but as a testament to the transformative power of faith and resilience. The Lord can turn our lives around swiftly when we choose to trust Him and obey, even when fear threatens to hold us back.

The Restoration of What Was Lost

In the darkest moments, it may seem as though the locusts have eaten away at our dreams and aspirations. However, my journey stands as evidence that the Lord is a provider and a restorer. Stepping into visibility is not only an act of self-love but also a gift to our children. They need to witness our courage, faith, and the beauty that arises when we allow the light to penetrate the darkest corners of our lives.


In sharing this conversation with my mentor, I hope to inspire others who may be on a similar journey of healing and self-discovery. We are not destined to remain invisible or stuck; there is a path to freedom and visibility. As we continue to cling to Him, the Lord will guide us, provide for us, and restore what the locusts have eaten. May this story serve as a beacon of hope for all those who are ready to step into the light and embrace the visibility they deserve.

Love & blessings!  

Connie Dunn, BSN, RN, NC-BC, BC-MHC

Board Certified Trauma Informed Positive Psychology Nurse Coach, Mental Health Coach, Narcissistic Abuse Specialist, & Brainspotting Practitioner


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