👑 Biblical Leadership vs. Controlling Christianity 👑

 There’s a difference between a man who leads like Christ and a man who uses Christ to dominate.

A Godly man leads with humility, love, and sacrifice. A controlling man hides behind religion to justify dominance and control.

🔹 The Godly Husband: A Christ-like Leader

• Leads through servanthood, not superiority (Ephesians 5:25)

• Honors his wife as a co-heir of grace (1 Peter 3:7)

• Makes decisions with wisdom, prayer, and respect

• Uses his strength to protect, not oppress

• His leadership results in his wife blossoming in peace, joy, and purpose

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” – Ephesians 5:25 

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” – Proverbs 18:22

🔸 The Controlling Man: A Religious Tyrant: Demands submission but offers no sacrifice

• Uses Scripture as a weapon, not a guide (twisting verses like Ephesians 5:22 out of context)

• Makes his wife feel small, confused, fearful, and silenced

• Seeks power, not partnership

• His control results in his wife shrinking in anxiety, emotional shutdown, and spiritual confusion

“Having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.” – 2 Timothy 3:5

 “Do not be harsh with them.” – Colossians 3:19

💔 The Fruit Reveals the Root A wife under a Godly man’s leadership thrives. A wife under a controlling man’s grip withers.

Jesus never led with fear—He led with truth, tenderness, and power under control. Let’s not confuse manipulation with biblical manhood. Real leadership looks like love in action, not dominance in disguise.

🛡️ Ladies, know the difference. And men, be the difference.

 Godly leadership covers, uplifts, and partners with a woman—not crushes her spirit.

If this is you and you find yourself under ungodly and controlling leadership, you need professional support to come alongside you in your healing journey, who has also been there, take that first step by reaching out to me to set up a time to discuss what that would look like and begin your BREAKTHROUGH to taking your life back and become the woman God created you to be. 

Connie Wunderly, BSN, RN, NC-BC, BC-MHC

Board Certified Trauma Informed Nurse Coach

Christian Mental Health Coach (American Academy of Christian Counselors) 

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