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The Greatest Comeback: Rising from the Ashes After a Man Shatters Your World




"God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day." — Psalm 46:5


There is a unique kind of devastation that comes when a woman, who was once in a strong and stable place, allows a man into her life, believing he is safe—only for him to betray, manipulate, and ultimately implode the world she built. It is even more painful when children are involved because her heartbreak is not just her own; it extends to those she loves most.


If you find yourself in this place, know this: your story is not over. God has already written your comeback, and it is going to be greater than the destruction he left behind.


1. The Weight of a Man’s Responsibility

Men are called to be protectors and providers, not destroyers. A man who enters a woman’s life and dismantles her peace with selfishness and immaturity is not walking in his God-given role. Scripture is clear: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" (Ephesians 5:25). A true man of God cherishes, uplifts, and shields—not wounds, deceives, or abandons.  Do not lose hope.  These men do exist.  


A man who treats a woman and her children as disposable will answer to the Lord. God sees the tears cried in secret. He sees the financial struggles, the sleepless nights, and the emotional toll. He does not take lightly the mistreatment of His daughters. "Do not take advantage of the widow or the fatherless. If you do and they cry out to me, I will certainly hear their cry" (Exodus 22:22-23).


Rest assured, what was done to you will not go unnoticed by heaven.  Hopefully, this will lead to Godly sorrow, conviction, repentance, and redemption. Our Father in heaven is a just and righteous God that wants all to be saved.  However, He will discipline as necessary those in rebellion.  


2. The Power of a Woman’s Resilience

A woman’s greatest revenge is not bitterness; it is rising from the ashes stronger, wiser, and closer to God than ever before. When a man enters your life and tears it apart, the enemy wants you to believe that you are ruined. But the truth? You are being refined.


The comeback is in rebuilding—not just your life, but your spirit. It’s in standing up and saying, "This pain will not define me. My children will not see me broken. They will see a woman who gets back up, dusts herself off, and builds something even better with God."


Your worth was never tied to how a man treated you. Your identity is in Christ. "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come" (Proverbs 31:25). And that laughter will come again.


3. God’s Presence in the Rebuilding

Right now, it may feel like everything is in ruins. But the promise of Psalm 46:5 remains: "God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day."

  • God is within you — Even when you feel alone, you are never truly abandoned.


  • You will not fall — It may feel like you’re on the edge, but God will catch you every single time.


  • He will help you at break of day — The night won’t last forever. Your morning is coming, and with it, your restoration.


4. Steps Toward Your Greatest Comeback

  1. Cut all ties that drain your peace — If this man is still trying to disrupt your life, set firm boundaries. No more access to your mind, emotions, or future.

  2. Heal intentionally — Therapy, coaching, somatic healing, prayer, journaling—do what you need to do to process the pain in a healthy way.

  3. Rebuild financially and emotionally — If he left you in ruins, God will provide a way for you to rebuild. Ask Him for strategy, wisdom, and provision.  He is a God who restores what the locusts have eaten.  Joel 2:25

  4. Invest in your children — They need to see a mother who is rising, not one stuck in despair. Your comeback will be their greatest lesson in resilience.

  5. Trust God’s justice — You don’t need to seek revenge. God sees. He will handle what needs to be handled. Focus on your own healing and elevation.


5. The Final Word: Your Story is Not Over

You may have been shattered, but you are not defeated. The man who did not appreciate you may have thought he was destroying your future, but he was only setting you up for a greater destiny. Your life is not over—it is being rebuilt by the hands of God Himself.


And when you rise, you will not just be the woman you were before—You will be stronger. Wiser. Unshakable. A warrior in Christ.

Your best days are not behind you. They are ahead.

Hold on, Sis. Your comeback is going to be powerful.


If this is you and you need professional support to come alongside you in your healing journey, who has also been there, take that first step by reaching out to me to set up a time to discuss what that would look like and begin your BREAKTHROUGH to taking your life back and become the woman God created you to be. 


Connie Dunn, BSN, RN, NC-BC, BC-MHC


Board Certified Trauma Informed Nurse Coach


Christian Mental Health Coach (American Academy of Christian Counselors) 


Certified Narcissistic Abuse Specialist


Certified Somatic Experiencing, Positive Psychology, & Brainspotting Practitioner


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