📣 STOP FUTURE FAKING – A Hidden but Harmful Sin

Unkept promises—when within someone’s will to fulfill—aren’t just “changed plans” or “life getting in the way.”

🚫 They are lies.

This tactic is called future faking: the act of making promises about the future to gain control, affection, compliance, or advantage in the present—with no true intent to follow through.

📖 Jesus said, “Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.”

— Matthew 5:37

When someone speaks promises that sound good, knowing they won’t uphold them, they’re committing deception.

🔁 It manipulates emotions. 🧠 It distorts someone else’s reality. 💔 It causes others to build hopes, plans, or even a life around a lie.

Biblically, this is fraud.

📖 “Do not defraud your neighbor or rob him.” — Leviticus 19:13

When you use words to mislead someone into giving you time, intimacy, trust, loyalty, or service—knowing you won’t keep your word—you are breaking covenant.

God takes promises seriously.

📖 “It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfill it.” — Ecclesiastes 5:5

Ways to Deal With Future Faking:

✅ Discern Patterns, Not Promises

Watch what they do, not what they say.

✅ Set Boundaries

Don’t make decisions or offer access based on “someday.” Require follow-through first.

✅ Hold to Your Standards

Love does not require you to tolerate lies.

✅ Guard Your Heart

Proverbs 4:23 warns us: “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

💡If someone consistently makes promises and breaks them—even if they say all the right Christian things—you are not obligated to remain vulnerable to deception.

🛡️ Stand firm. Set boundaries. Walk in truth.

Because your heart, time, and trust are valuable to God.

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