There is something deeply broken in a system where the wounded are questioned more than the ones who caused the wounds. If you’ve ever found yourself over-explaining… Trying to prove your pain… Replaying conversations to justify your reality… You’re not crazy—you’ve been conditioned. Abuse—especially emotional, verbal, and psychological—trains you to believe you are the problem. It keeps you in cycles of confusion, self-doubt, and striving for approval that will never come. B

Many trauma survivors don’t just “prefer texting”… they’ve learned it as a form of safety. If you’ve walked through a narcissistic or high-conflict relationship, you understand this on a deep, embodied level. When you’ve endured: • circular conversations that never resolve • rage and emotional volatility • gaslighting that makes you question your reality • constant interruptions, accusations, and control Your nervous system adapts. From a trauma-informed, evidence-based persp

Each morning, I get up while it's still dark. I get my coffee, do my workout, & have my 'God Time' where I pray, study Scripture, reflect, listen, journal, & end with listening to worship music while I start getting ready for the day. I've done it now for over 30 years. I've memorized countless verses, felt the loving conviction of the Holy Spirit, grown, healed, stumbled, cried, repented, rejoiced, pleaded for others, found peace during troubled times, felt held

Oftentimes, while good intentioned, we have unknowingly given our power over to a narcissistic spirit out of the desire to be submissive, meek, or nice. We may have found ourselves in a destructive relationship or situationship and have mistakenly thought that the answer was to be nice by submitting to one that feeds off of power, control, and reactions based on manipulation.   However, the Word calls us to be Holy, not nice! Bullies don’t change when they are catered to.   G

Adult clergy sexual abuse (ACSA) is real. It is harmful. And it is NEVER consensual in the way healthy relationships are meant to be. Clergy are in positions of spiritual authority, trust, and power—and when that authority is used to coerce, groom, or sexually engage with someone under their care, it is abuse. Period. Even if the perpetrator claims they “loved” the person. Even if they “never meant harm.” Even if they insist the other person “consented.” That dynamic is a p

Although the majority of my clients are women healing from narcissistic abuse by men, the spirit of narcissism is not gender-specific. It can operate through men or women, leaders or laypeople, spouses, parents, friends, coworkers, and even within church spaces. 📖Scripture warns us plainly: “But know this: In the last days perilous times will come. For people will be lovers of self… lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its powe

I’ve been that woman. The one who was: Abandoned Rejected Orphaned Abused Falsely accused while I was the one actually being abused Betrayed by those I only ever loved and helped Afraid Confused Making a poor choice because of a wound from another Basing my value on body imperfections Left wondering if I’d ever be enough... I’ve cried until I threw up. I’ve laid in bed wondering if anyone even cared. I’ve watched my children suffer at the hands of someone who was supposed to

One of the greatest shifts we can make as Overcomers in Him is choosing gratefulness instead of entitlement. These two postures produce drastically different fruit in our lives—spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and even physically. THE FRUIT OF ENTITLEMENT Entitlement is rooted in a lack of faith. It whispers, “God owes me… people owe me… life owes me.” 👉And the fruit shows up quickly: Complaining Anxiety Depression Irritability Criticism Blame shifting Resentment Emotion

In today’s world, those who serve on the front lines are facing more trauma than ever before. Not just the trauma you witness on the job, but the secondary trauma—the emotional weight of what you must see, hear, absorb, and still keep going. What many don’t understand is that first responders and medical professionals are some of the most impacted by unprocessed trauma, yet are often the least supported emotionally. And this trauma doesn’t stay at work. It shows up in: 🚨 Bur

Because when God defends you, you don’t have to. If you’ve survived narcissistic abuse, you know this pain well: 🔹 Triangulation – lies passed through others 🔹 Flying monkeys – people manipulated to attack your character 🔹 Bearing false witness – accusations meant to provoke, intimidate, or silence you But here is the truth that sets Overcomers free: The Lord is your Defender, your Redeemer, and your Vindicator. “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” (Ex

Rumination. Overthinking. Replaying. Spiraling. Most survivors don’t realize these aren’t “just thoughts” — they’re protector parts trying to keep you safe. But you can retrain your brain. God made our brains to be neuroplastic which means we can rewire & learn new defaults. Introducing the Redirection Bracelet Method-A Form of Pattern Interrupt 💗🖤🤍 A simple, science-backed/evidence based + faith-filled tool we use in Overcomers in Him. ✨ How it works: Wear a stretchy b

One of the most subtle — and spiritually dangerous — aspects of narcissistic abuse is how it drains your oil, the anointing and strength God gives you to live, love, parent, grow, and fulfill your purpose. A narcissist does not pour into you… they pull from you.  Sometimes quietly.  Sometimes chaotically.  Always consistently. And that constant drain eventually leaves even the strongest woman running on fumes. 🛢️ They Drain Your Oil Through Daily Chaos Narcissistic individua

Over four years as a single mom and many more years as a "single wife," I’ve walked a road many of you know too well. It’s a path marked by heartbreak, endurance, and, ultimately, healing. Some of my deepest healing from a toxic 23-year marriage came during my time as a single mom, while other pieces of my heart were mended in the midst of a future relationship. Healing from severe complex trauma (C-PTSD) is not a straight line—it’s a journey. A long, messy, and deeply transf

🕊️ “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” — Psalm 147:3 If you’ve lived through long seasons of fear, abuse, neglect, or betrayal, you may carry the invisible scars of Complex PTSD — and I want you to know this right now: ✨ There is no shame in that. ✨ There is no judgment here. ✨ You are not broken — you are healing. C-PTSD isn’t a character flaw. It’s not “too much faithlessness” or “not being strong enough.” It’s what happens when the soul has endured

So many people underestimate how much their daily habits  affect their mental, physical, and spiritual health. Simple, consistent choices make a massive difference: 🛌 Prioritizing sleep & true rest 🙏 Quiet time with the Lord 🥗 Healthy eating (not late at night) 🏃 Movement & exercise 💧 Hydration 🌿 Supplements (many are deficient in Vitamin D & Magnesium) 🚫 Limiting alcohol, sugar, caffeine, & toxins—including toxic people 🌞 Getting outside in God’s creation ➡️ These ar

Because healing, wholeness, and holiness require daily discipline. Beautiful Sister, if you truly desire to rise, rebuild, and reign as the woman God created you to be — there are five daily absolutes you must guard with intention. These are not optional. These are sacred practices of restoration and strength. 💪✨ 💖 1. Sufficient Rest: Rest is not laziness. It’s obedience. 🕊️ “Come to Me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28 When we

The Lord often teaches us deep truths in the simplest ways. One day while my dog, Izzy, was outside, our neighbor’s dog began barking. Naturally, Izzy joined in, as if she had no choice but to respond. But the Lord gently showed me something: Izzy isn’t less of a protector if she chooses not to bark back—especially when I, her master, am telling her not to. How often do we as believers fall into the same trap? Someone barks at us, triggers us, or tries to bait us into a fight

The Bible teaches us that greatness comes through servanthood, not self-centeredness. Jesus Himself said: “Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant” (Matthew 20:26). Yet in today’s world, we see the stark difference between those who live to give and those who live to take. 🔹 Givers reflect the Spirit of Christ. 🔹 Takers often reflect a narcissistic spirit—ego-driven, entitled, and self-serving. Characteristics of Takers (Narcissistic Spirit) Always aski

Have you ever noticed how when you expect something to go wrong, it often does? Or how when you believe someone will disappoint you, you start looking for the proof that they will? That’s not coincidence — that’s confirmation bias in action. 🧠 Definition: Confirmation bias is the tendency to search for, interpret, and remember information that confirms what we already believe — even if it’s not true. It’s how we create self-fulfilling prophecies that keep us trapped in cycl

We live in a culture that constantly screams “Now!” — but as believers and Overcomers in Him, we are called to a higher standard. Instant gratification is rooted in control and ungratefulness, and it directly conflicts with the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), especially patience, self-control, and faithfulness. When we chase after instant gratification, we are essentially saying: “I don’t trust God’s timing.” “I need to take control because I can’t wait.” “What I hav