💡LIVING CONTROLLED BY EMOTIONS WILL SABOTAGE YOUR LIFE💡

overcomerinhim1021
Sep 7, 2025
3 min read

When emotions drive your decisions, they can derail relationships, sabotage opportunities, and keep you trapped in cycles God never intended for you.

But learning to regulate your emotions is a sign of maturity, wisdom, and walking closely with God.

Scripture tells us:

"A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls." – Proverbs 25:28

As Overcomers in Him, we are called to rule over our emotions, not be ruled by them.

🔍 5 Signs of Emotional Immaturity

1. Reacting instead of responding – Speaking or acting impulsively without prayer or reflection.

2. Blaming others for your feelings – Expecting people to “make you feel” better instead of taking ownership.

3. Mood swings dictating your behavior – Your day rises or falls based solely on your emotions.

4. Avoiding hard conversations – Letting discomfort or fear prevent you from handling issues in truth and love.

5. Shutting down or lashing out – Using withdrawal or anger as a defense rather than seeking resolution.

✅ How to Take Authority & Responsibility Over Your Emotions

(Walking in Self-Agency & Emotional Regulation)

1. Pray First, Speak Later – Invite the Holy Spirit into your emotions before you respond (James 1:19).

2. Pause & Breathe – Use slow, deep breathing to calm your nervous system before acting.

3. Name the Emotion – Identify what you feel (“I feel anxious,” “I feel hurt”) instead of just reacting.

4. Challenge the Thought – Ask, “Is this true? Or is this my fear, insecurity, or past talking?” (Philippians 4:8).

5. Take Care of Your Body – Eat well, rest, and move your body—your physical health impacts emotional balance.

6. Set Boundaries – Don’t let toxic environments feed unhealthy emotions.

7. Journaling with God – Write out your feelings and ask the Lord to give you His perspective.

8. Scripture Memorization – Have go-to verses ready when emotions run high (Psalm 34:4, Isaiah 26:3).

9. Seek Wise Counsel – Sometimes emotions are clouded; seek Godly wisdom to see clearly.

10. Practice Gratitude – Focusing on blessings shifts the emotional atmosphere inside you.

💬 Bottom Line:

Emotional maturity isn’t about never feeling strong emotions—it’s about mastering them through the Spirit’s guidance. When you learn to regulate your emotions, you protect your peace, guard your relationships, and honor God in how you live.

🙌 Prayer:

“Lord, help me to be slow to anger, quick to listen, and anchored in Your peace. Teach me to steward my emotions so they serve Your purpose and not my flesh. In Jesus’ name, amen.”

Overcomers In Him

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Love & blessings! 😘

Connie Wunderly, BSN, RN, NC-BC, BC-MHC

Board Certified Trauma Informed Nurse Coach

Christian Mental Health Coach (American Academy of Christian Counselors)

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