😈THE SPIRIT OF NARCISSISM: DISCERNMENT FOR THE LAST DAYS

Although the majority of my clients are women healing from narcissistic abuse by men, the spirit of narcissism is not gender-specific. It can operate through men or women, leaders or laypeople, spouses, parents, friends, coworkers, and even within church spaces.

📖Scripture warns us plainly:

“But know this: In the last days perilous times will come. For people will be lovers of self… lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power.”

— 2 Timothy 3:1–5

This passage is not vague. It describes a self-centered, exploitative, unrepentant spirit that looks spiritual on the outside but is destructive at its core. We are told plainly: “From such people turn away.”

🤔What Is a Narcissistic Spirit?

A narcissistic spirit is marked by pride, entitlement, lack of empathy, manipulation, domination, and exploitation of others for self-gain. It resists accountability, distorts truth, and feeds on admiration, control, and emotional supply.

📖Jesus described this nature clearly when He said:

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy.”

— John 10:10

This spirit exists to kill identity, steal peace, and destroy lives and callings—especially in those who are loving, generous, faithful, and strong.

🔥10 Signs of a Narcissistic Spirit

Chronic self-focus; conversations always return to them

Lack of empathy or compassion for others’ pain

Manipulation through guilt, fear, or obligation

Gaslighting, denial, and rewriting reality

Entitlement without responsibility

Exploitation of generous or giving people

Charm without character; image over integrity

Rage or withdrawal when confronted

Inability to repent or take ownership

Discarding people once they are no longer useful

🪱Like a parasite, this spirit seeks a host—often someone strong, faithful, empathetic, and capable—and drains them emotionally, spiritually, financially, or relationally.

Once the “supply” is depleted, the target is often discarded without remorse.

🤔Why This Is So Damaging?

A relationship with someone operating in a narcissistic spirit can:

☣️Destroy self-worth and confidence

☣️Dysregulate the nervous system

☣️Create chronic confusion and self-doubt

☣️Erode faith, joy, and peace

☣️Lead to burnout, trauma, and spiritual exhaustion

This is why “just be nice” Christianity is dangerous in these situations.

Jesus was kind, but He was also clear, boundaried, and confrontational with destructive behavior.

📢We Cannot Enable This Spirit

Scripture does NOT call believers to tolerate abuse, manipulation, or exploitation in the name of love.

📖“Be wise as serpents and innocent as doves.” — Matthew 10:16

Wisdom requires discernment. Innocence does not mean naivety.

10 Biblical Ways to Deal with a Narcissistic Spirit

👉Recognize it — Stop minimizing or spiritualizing harm

👉Name behaviors — Truth dismantles deception

👉Set firm boundaries — Love without boundaries enables sin

👉Stop over-explaining — This spirit twists words

👉Do not JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain)

👉Hold consequences — Boundaries without consequences are suggestions

👉Limit access — Emotional, relational, or physical

👉Seek wise counsel — Not passive or enabling voices

👉Protect your peace — It is your stewardship

👉Be willing to walk away — Sometimes separation is obedience

There are times when severing the relationship is not bitterness—it is biblical wisdom and self-respect.

👉Taking God-Given Authority

We are not powerless.

📖“I have given you authority… over all the power of the enemy.” — Luke 10:19

We have a responsibility to:

🩷Guard our hearts

🛡️Protect our households

🩷Steward our callings

🛑Refuse to partner with destruction

Standing up to a narcissistic spirit is not unloving—it is obedient.

Love does not mean access.

Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation.

Discernment is not judgment.

Boundaries are biblical.

In these last days, may we be a people who walk in truth, wisdom, courage, and spiritual authority—refusing to allow what God calls destructive to continue unchecked in our lives.

Overcomers do not submit to what Christ already defeated!

If you need help overcoming harm from a narcissistic spirit, you aren't alone. I'm here to help. I've been there & am now called to help others take what the enemy intended for evil & use for good! Gen. 50:20

Connie@overcomersinhim.com

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