Sometimes the hardest part of narcissistic abuse isn't the accusation itself—it's realizing you've spent years defending yourself against things you never did. You explain. You prove. You apologize for things that weren't yours. You walk on eggshells trying to avoid the next accusation. But here's the truth: You were never meant to spend your life on trial in your own home. God knows the truth. He sees what others don't. And healing begins when you stop trying to convince som

Let's be honest. Bullying doesn't always look like a child being picked on at school. Sometimes it looks like the spouse who constantly mocks you, humiliates you, criticizes you, intimidates you, or deliberately pushes your buttons—and then says, "I was just kidding." Sometimes it looks like the person who hurts you and then tells you that you're "too sensitive." Sometimes it looks like manipulation disguised as love. Gaslighting disguised as concern. Blameshifting disguised

A man is not a god simply because he is a husband. Too many women have been taught that "submission" means tolerating abuse, deception, manipulation, addiction, infidelity, intimidation, or ungodly leadership. That is not what Scripture teaches. God never calls a wife to submit to sin. He calls us to submit first to Him. A man who refuses to submit his own life to Christ cannot expect unquestioning obedience while leading his family away from God. Pride, control, lies, rage,

When churches tell women to endure abuse in the name of "submission," they are not reflecting the heart of Christ—they are cowardly enabling sin. Jesus never excused oppression. He confronted it. He defended the vulnerable. He called sinners to repentance, not victims to remain in harm's way. At Overcomers in Him, we are passionate about helping women break free from the lies that keep them trapped, heal from the wounds of abuse, and discover their true identity in Christ. Bi

While I most often speak about the male narcissist, it is important to understand that narcissism is not exclusive to men. The majority of my clients are women healing from trauma and narcissistic abuse, which is why much of my content reflects their experiences. However, I have also worked with men who have been deeply wounded by women operating in the same narcissistic spirit. Abuse, manipulation, control, deceit, envy, and destruction are not gender-specific issues. Person

One of the most disorienting dynamics in narcissistic emotional abuse is this: They don’t just hurt you once… they stack offenses. Multiple jabs. Multiple accusations. Multiple moments of disrespect — all at once. Why? Because it floods your nervous system. Your body goes into overwhelm. Your mind can’t process fast enough. Your emotions get tangled. You feel confused, scattered, and unable to respond clearly. And then… if you do try to bring up what happened? They respond

Many trauma survivors don’t just “prefer texting”… they’ve learned it as a form of safety. If you’ve walked through a narcissistic or high-conflict relationship, you understand this on a deep, embodied level. When you’ve endured: • circular conversations that never resolve • rage and emotional volatility • gaslighting that makes you question your reality • constant interruptions, accusations, and control Your nervous system adapts. From a trauma-informed, evidence-based persp

Oftentimes, while good intentioned, we have unknowingly given our power over to a narcissistic spirit out of the desire to be submissive, meek, or nice. We may have found ourselves in a destructive relationship or situationship and have mistakenly thought that the answer was to be nice by submitting to one that feeds off of power, control, and reactions based on manipulation. However, the Word calls us to be Holy, not nice! Bullies don’t change when they are catered to. G

Adult clergy sexual abuse (ACSA) is real. It is harmful. And it is NEVER consensual in the way healthy relationships are meant to be. Clergy are in positions of spiritual authority, trust, and power—and when that authority is used to coerce, groom, or sexually engage with someone under their care, it is abuse. Period. Even if the perpetrator claims they “loved” the person. Even if they “never meant harm.” Even if they insist the other person “consented.” That dynamic is a p

Although the majority of my clients are women healing from narcissistic abuse by men, the spirit of narcissism is not gender-specific. It can operate through men or women, leaders or laypeople, spouses, parents, friends, coworkers, and even within church spaces. 📖Scripture warns us plainly: “But know this: In the last days perilous times will come. For people will be lovers of self… lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its powe

I’ve been that woman. The one who was: Abandoned Rejected Orphaned Abused Falsely accused while I was the one actually being abused Betrayed by those I only ever loved and helped Afraid Confused Making a poor choice because of a wound from another Basing my value on body imperfections Left wondering if I’d ever be enough... I’ve cried until I threw up. I’ve laid in bed wondering if anyone even cared. I’ve watched my children suffer at the hands of someone who was supposed to

An apology without change is not reconciliation—it’s just manipulation & a pause button on the same pattern. In healthy relationships, words matter—but repair requires action. Biblically, being “sorry” was never meant to be the end of the story. God’s model includes repentance, responsibility, and restoration. 👉 Saying “I’m sorry” acknowledges pain. 👉 Repair addresses the damage and changes future behavior. Biblical “Sorry” Looks Like Repentance In Scripture, repentance is

One of the greatest shifts we can make as Overcomers in Him is choosing gratefulness instead of entitlement. These two postures produce drastically different fruit in our lives—spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and even physically. THE FRUIT OF ENTITLEMENT Entitlement is rooted in a lack of faith. It whispers, “God owes me… people owe me… life owes me.” 👉And the fruit shows up quickly: Complaining Anxiety Depression Irritability Criticism Blame shifting Resentment Emotion

In today’s world, those who serve on the front lines are facing more trauma than ever before. Not just the trauma you witness on the job, but the secondary trauma—the emotional weight of what you must see, hear, absorb, and still keep going. What many don’t understand is that first responders and medical professionals are some of the most impacted by unprocessed trauma, yet are often the least supported emotionally. And this trauma doesn’t stay at work. It shows up in: 🚨 Bur

Because when God defends you, you don’t have to. If you’ve survived narcissistic abuse, you know this pain well: 🔹 Triangulation – lies passed through others 🔹 Flying monkeys – people manipulated to attack your character 🔹 Bearing false witness – accusations meant to provoke, intimidate, or silence you But here is the truth that sets Overcomers free: The Lord is your Defender, your Redeemer, and your Vindicator. “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” (Ex

Rumination. Overthinking. Replaying. Spiraling. Most survivors don’t realize these aren’t “just thoughts” — they’re protector parts trying to keep you safe. But you can retrain your brain. God made our brains to be neuroplastic which means we can rewire & learn new defaults. Introducing the Redirection Bracelet Method-A Form of Pattern Interrupt 💗🖤🤍 A simple, science-backed/evidence based + faith-filled tool we use in Overcomers in Him. ✨ How it works: Wear a stretchy b

Over four years as a single mom and many more years as a "single wife," I’ve walked a road many of you know too well. It’s a path marked by heartbreak, endurance, and, ultimately, healing. Some of my deepest healing from a toxic 23-year marriage came during my time as a single mom, while other pieces of my heart were mended in the midst of a future relationship. Healing from severe complex trauma (C-PTSD) is not a straight line—it’s a journey. A long, messy, and deeply transf

The Lord often teaches us deep truths in the simplest ways. One day while my dog, Izzy, was outside, our neighbor’s dog began barking. Naturally, Izzy joined in, as if she had no choice but to respond. But the Lord gently showed me something: Izzy isn’t less of a protector if she chooses not to bark back—especially when I, her master, am telling her not to. How often do we as believers fall into the same trap? Someone barks at us, triggers us, or tries to bait us into a fight

The Bible teaches us that greatness comes through servanthood, not self-centeredness. Jesus Himself said: “Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant” (Matthew 20:26). Yet in today’s world, we see the stark difference between those who live to give and those who live to take. 🔹 Givers reflect the Spirit of Christ. 🔹 Takers often reflect a narcissistic spirit—ego-driven, entitled, and self-serving. Characteristics of Takers (Narcissistic Spirit) Always aski

Have you ever noticed how when you expect something to go wrong, it often does? Or how when you believe someone will disappoint you, you start looking for the proof that they will? That’s not coincidence — that’s confirmation bias in action. 🧠 Definition: Confirmation bias is the tendency to search for, interpret, and remember information that confirms what we already believe — even if it’s not true. It’s how we create self-fulfilling prophecies that keep us trapped in cycl