One of the most subtle — and spiritually dangerous — aspects of narcissistic abuse is how it drains your oil, the anointing and strength God gives you to live, love, parent, grow, and fulfill your purpose. A narcissist does not pour into you… they pull from you.  Sometimes quietly.  Sometimes chaotically.  Always consistently. And that constant drain eventually leaves even the strongest woman running on fumes. 🛢️ They Drain Your Oil Through Daily Chaos Narcissistic individua

Over four years as a single mom and many more years as a "single wife," I’ve walked a road many of you know too well. It’s a path marked by heartbreak, endurance, and, ultimately, healing. Some of my deepest healing from a toxic 23-year marriage came during my time as a single mom, while other pieces of my heart were mended in the midst of a future relationship. Healing from severe complex trauma (C-PTSD) is not a straight line—it’s a journey. A long, messy, and deeply transf

Because healing, wholeness, and holiness require daily discipline. Beautiful Sister, if you truly desire to rise, rebuild, and reign as the woman God created you to be — there are five daily absolutes you must guard with intention. These are not optional. These are sacred practices of restoration and strength. 💪✨ 💖 1. Sufficient Rest: Rest is not laziness. It’s obedience. 🕊️ “Come to Me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28 When we

The Lord often teaches us deep truths in the simplest ways. One day while my dog, Izzy, was outside, our neighbor’s dog began barking. Naturally, Izzy joined in, as if she had no choice but to respond. But the Lord gently showed me something: Izzy isn’t less of a protector if she chooses not to bark back—especially when I, her master, am telling her not to. How often do we as believers fall into the same trap? Someone barks at us, triggers us, or tries to bait us into a fight

The Bible teaches us that greatness comes through servanthood, not self-centeredness. Jesus Himself said: “Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant” (Matthew 20:26). Yet in today’s world, we see the stark difference between those who live to give and those who live to take. 🔹 Givers reflect the Spirit of Christ. 🔹 Takers often reflect a narcissistic spirit—ego-driven, entitled, and self-serving. Characteristics of Takers (Narcissistic Spirit) Always aski

Have you ever noticed how when you expect something to go wrong, it often does? Or how when you believe someone will disappoint you, you start looking for the proof that they will? That’s not coincidence — that’s confirmation bias in action. 🧠 Definition: Confirmation bias is the tendency to search for, interpret, and remember information that confirms what we already believe — even if it’s not true. It’s how we create self-fulfilling prophecies that keep us trapped in cycl

We live in a culture that constantly screams “Now!” — but as believers and Overcomers in Him, we are called to a higher standard. Instant gratification is rooted in control and ungratefulness, and it directly conflicts with the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), especially patience, self-control, and faithfulness. When we chase after instant gratification, we are essentially saying: “I don’t trust God’s timing.” “I need to take control because I can’t wait.” “What I hav

When we look at narcissism, we must understand it from two perspectives: clinically and Biblically. 🔹 According to the DSM (Diagnostic...

One of the biggest lessons we learn—often the hard way—is that boundaries are not just nice to have in relationships; they are essential....

As Overcomers in Him, we are called to honor our bodies as the temple of the Holy Spirit. When we neglect our physical, emotional, and...

Proverbs 31 paints a picture of a strong, wise, creative, and discerning woman. But when we look through Scripture, we see that Biblical...

A toxic man doesn’t just wound the woman he targets — he leaves scars on the children too. When he projects his pain, anger, and...

When emotions drive your decisions, they can derail relationships, sabotage opportunities, and keep you trapped in cycles God never...

In relationships—whether marriage, friendships, or ministry—defensiveness can feel like self-protection, but in reality, it is one of the...

Being “too much in your feelings” isn’t just an emotional slump—it’s a distraction from the enemy. When you’re ruled by emotions, you...

👊When we make the decision to stop living as victims of our circumstances and start walking as Overcomers in Him, everything shifts. We...

Everyone talks about the woman at the well like she was some loose woman hopping from man to man... But what if she was just a Godly...

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